Jay Fesperman, Cofounder of CTCI, on Facing Troubles at Home
It is important that we realize the significance of a family “living in one house.” A family is meant to bring people together in close fellowship in order to cause friction among its members. If we don’t learn how to face troubles at home, we will not learn how to cope with the pressures of ordinary living in the world. There is a clear purpose in the closeness required of family members. But the nature of man wants to pull away and live unto its own self. Every young person growing up in America wants his own room, with his own radio, his own television, his own telephone. And we strive for the level of prosperity that will make it all possible for each child to have his own hide-out! The home of the family is the site of much interaction, much rubbing. And it has its clear purpose in the growing-up process. Family is meant to produce confrontation. But our nature doesn’t like confrontation. Nevertheless, it has its very clear purpose. Out of confrontation comes commitment, and when we try to live up to commitment, we learn how to cope with responsibility.