Good morning from all of us here at CTCI! Please join us in this second of three clips from Susan Pons’ message titled “Leave and Cleave” as we uncover the next practical action step to a Biblically sound marriage. We see who has the first foundational responsibility and where the command comes from!
“It is important to note after God created humankind in His image as male and female, He then gave to them (and us) the first necessary step for the design of a successful marriage—leaving. This command was given to Adam as a means to establish his headship. For it was Adam who was first created, and then Eve (I Timothy 2:13).
It is interesting to see that this commandment also reveals man as the initial and active foundational builder in the marriage relationship. In other words, it is the husband’s responsibility to place that first stone creating the firm foundation of his marriage.
That first solid stone has the word leave engraved upon it. The second cornerstone to be placed in the marriage foundation finds the word cleave chiseled deeply into the foundation’s underpinnings. These are two absolute necessities for a solid marriage.
Jesus says it well in Matthew 7: Everyone who hears these words of mine and does them is like a wise man who built his house on rock. The rain fell, the flood came, and the winds beat against that house, but it did not collapse because it had been founded on rock. Everyone who hears these words of mine and does not do them is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. The rain fell, the flood came, and the winds blew and beat on that house; and it fell. And great was its fall.
If there is no leaving—the first stone in a firm foundation is not put into place. This was God’s plan, not ours.
God’s earthly plan for marriage, then and now, was to guide man away from his former priorities which were formed in him in his life before marriage. Then, he was to turn and make his wife his new priority, through covenant, with the intention of creating a brand new identity with her. He is commanded to begin building a state-of-the-art foundation for his new life with new stones. He would begin this construction by placing leave and cleave in the mainstay positions. This masterpiece, the first marriage, Adam and Eve, was predestined to be a foreshadowing of Christ and the Church.” (Ephesians 5:32)
The marriage built on the right solid foundation as commanded by our God will prevail. It does not matter if you have been married for five weeks or fifty years! This command given by the Lord, establishes a fruitful marriage not matter what stage.
Husbands, you can begin to establish steps leading to a solid foundation even now! It all begins with two words… leaving and cleaving.
Would you like more information about how our Train to Reign program here at CTCI can help guide you practically on this journey of marriage as God intended?